Thought is omnivorous, and the mind takes in everything it meets. A good example is contagious, but a bad example is far more contagious. What you would rather reject, the mind mostly takes in as well. What you criticise is a sensitive point for you; you feed it, and resistance is all but an invitation. So do not take note of the faults and shortcomings of others, for sooner or later they will become the subject of your meditation.
There once lived a distinguished brahmana, a renowned member of the priestly order. Strong in faith, rich in devotion, full of spiritual powers. Next door to him lived a prostitute. Sometimes opposites meet at such close quarters. Such was the priest's dubious neighbour, and a pretty lady she certainly was, pleasing to look at and very popular with men. Many sought her out, hoping for her services. The brahmana, it is true, was resolute and firm in his vows, yet no one sought his company. All who passed his door ended up next door, and this vexed the brahmana.
– What a degraded life! Different guests every day… However hard I try to radiate goodness next door, they keep disturbing my meditation. It is a disgrace, all the same!
The brahmana pondered: what was he to do? How could he bring his neighbour and her visitors to see reason?
– I may not be able to change them at a stroke, but this is a terrible state of affairs all the same! First of all, I shall keep an eye on them! Then I shall count how many come to this depraved woman…
He resolved that for every guest who visited next door he would place a stone in his own yard. The little pile of stones grew quickly, and gradually a veritable hill rose in the brahmana's yard. This was the result of his meditation, and the pile of stones kept rising higher and higher.
– What a depraved hussy! And what dissolute men! – and all the while he kept gathering stones.
And what was happening next door? The harlot was a pious soul, and she too, sure enough, was watching her neighbour. Nor did she feel at ease:
– This great saint is forced to live next door to me… What am I to do, when such a lowly trade has fallen to my lot. But if the good Lord has given me this living, what can I do? It is my bread. How good it would be to be as pure and holy as this brahmana next door! Look, he counts his prayers with stones… already a veritable heap of stones is rising in his yard. How much he prays!
She received her guests, and all the while she meditated on the brahmana's pile of stones next door. And the two sides of the fence changed places. The qualities of each side passed over to the other. As if light and shadow traded places, the bright side falls into darkness and the shadow is dispelled by the light.
One may expect results in keeping with his own consciousness, his way of seeing. Do not take the faults of others to your bosom. For man does not live by bread alone; thought also feeds, and the soul too needs nourishment. The food of the soul is the noblest fare. Count your prayers, not the visitors hurrying next door.